How to boost your self-confidence
Personal confidence is something most of us would like more of. And where do we turn to get it? To ourselves, of course, by bolstering and developing those areas that need attention. Increasing self-confidence is primarily a matter of finding out what makes us feel good about ourselves and then practising the relevant behaviour patterns. To grow in confidence yourself, here are strategies you might consider...
1. Set realistic targets for yourself.
Self-confidence will not turn you into Superman or Wonderwoman - only allow you to make the best of what you are personally capable of doing. So set reasonable and realistic expectations for yourself, rather than compare yourself with others. Keep upgrading your own standards in lifestyle, behaviour, relationships, and professional achievements.
2. Know what you do best.
If you stop and think about even the small things you do each day, you may be surprised to find some abilities and positive features that you haven't given yourself ample credit for in the past. Try to emphasise the positive at all times - and you'll gain confidence to work on those less positive aspects.
3. Monitor negative thoughts and feelings.
How negative are you about yourself? Do you spend long periods of time worrying about your inadequacies? Do you hold back because you think your report or response is not good enough? Do you compare yourself with another person and always come out second best? Such thinking will get you nowhere. When you find yourself thinking negatively, clench your fist, say 'Stop!' to yourself, and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Consider your blessings what and whom you are thankful for, your accomplish-ments, what you have done that you are proud of so far, and your goals, ambitions, and dreams.
